My Child’s responsibility is my first priority
First of all my children are my responsibility. It’s my primary duty being a mother to take full responsibility for my child’s actions and conduct. If my child is having behavior issues…or acting a little weird …then, I am the one who is accountable for it.
Mother’s lap is the first institution for any child. A child always looks up to his mother for all his physical as well as his emotional needs. she is responsible for a child’s good upbringing and well-being. If mothers don’t take the responsibility of their children then who will? we can’t possibly ask schools, daycare centers, our relatives, friends or maids to take the responsibility of our child, what would it leave for us to be responsible for?
Mothers are not ready to accept the child’s responsibility
But today as our mothers becoming self-centered they do not want to accept the child’s responsibility, the way they should be, the first thing a mother does as soon as a child is born is to get him registered in a good Montessori. You would often hear mothers having this conversation “oh did you get your child registered in a Montessori” as if the child’s very existence depends on that Montessori, and those who fail to register their child are looked down as if they have committed a heinous crime.
Don’t you think all these efforts are done on the part of the mothers to keep their children at arm’s length?…isn’t it what it indicates that they are not ready to take their responsibility as mothers? after all, they are the ones who brought these babies to be part of this society….society didn’t ask for them.
School’s responsibility is secondary
It’s the primary responsibility of a mother to do the upbringing of a child and school’s responsibility is secondary. But we do the exact opposite. No wonder when a child grows up, he’s so used to of not having his parents around him, that even they are of secondary importance to him, and then parents complain of children not giving them importance or treating them with respect, it’s like what goes around, comes around.
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Just sending the child to an expensive school is enough?
Some of the mothers think that sending the child to a well-known expensive school, putting food on his plate and buying him branded toys is enough and their job is done there, but you can’t compensate a parent’s love and attention with these materialistic possessions. It takes a lot more than that.
What happens when parents don’t accept their child’s responsibility?
The way you are going to deal with your child will have an impact on how he will build his relationships around..suppose a girl who never had a loving mother/daughter relationship, wouldn’t know how to raise her own children once she grows up…a boy who never had a bonding with his mother, wouldn’t know what to expect from his wife as a mother…the child will have a confused personality and will struggle throughout his life trying to build his relationships.
These children are those who falls victim to people manipulating them, using them for their purposes, they sometimes even end up taking drugs to feel high as they feel lonely, frustrated, unhappy and unworthy of love.
So people its high time that you start connecting with your child, learn about them, talk to them, listen to them, pay attention to them and above fully accept your child’s responsibility , as they are your children, your blood, your flesh, they belong to you.
What should be done?
The quote below explains it so well, every parent must read it.
“If I had my child to raise all over again, I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later. I’d finger-paint more, and point the finger less. I would do less correcting and more connecting. I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes. I’d take more hikes and fly more kites. I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play. I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars. I’d do more hugging and less tugging’ – Diane Loomans