Learn to Say No to kids- Why its crucial



Learn to say No to kids

To say no to kids is the most difficult thing to do.Ever since the summer vacation of my kids began, I started getting a little irritated. On many occasions, I swear I felt like a ‘Hotel’s room service waitress’ who was at a beck and call of my own kids. With kids ordering me around the house all the time. I felt literally drained, impatient and not to mention a lot cranky ( yea I wasn’t getting my me time). The purpose of writing this post is not to rant, but to acknowledge the fact that all mothers tend to lose their cool when it comes to kids staying at home during their summer vacations (70 days to be more accurate)

So what compelled me to write this post?

Yesterday as I sat down to write ( writing project for a client) my little one came to me and said in her sweetest little voice (which I, as a matter of fact had never heard before) “Hey mom, can we have some fries, please”, “Yes sure honey” (who could resist saying no to my kid’s sweetest voice). I served them fries with their favorite ketchup. As I was thinking to finally get back to work when I heard another call, “Hey mom, can we have home made burgers tonight for dinner” ? My face literally dropped at the thought of re-entering the kitchen in such a hot weather. Again I tried acting like a good mother and said yes to them.

Once I was done with dinner and dishes. I finally let out a sigh of relief, thinking to myself, now no more distractions, only me and my laptop. At that very moment, my elder one came to me this time, “Mama, I am hungry again, can I have something to eat”. It was then that I exploded and lost my cool. My reaction was something that shocked him ” What do you think I am, some kind of a hotel’s room service? the only thing I have to do is serve you food”? As soon as the words came out, I realized I had made a terrible mistake (not something I am very proud of ).

You May also be interested in : ‘An open letter to Mothers’

Why to say No to kids

The only lesson I think learned out of this terrible experience is to Learn to say no to kids when I think, I am having a rough time, I can’t put up with their constant demands. It’s okay to say No to kids and explain gently to your kids as to why you can’t do something than agreeing to it and exploding later on when you feel irritation or unable to do it. The problem with us, parents, is that in order to excel, in order to be good parents, we refuse to say NO to kids, thinking that will make us less good parents. We actually feel guilty when we have to say NO. We need to learn to say No to kids as parents instead of taking excessive pressure in order to not to say ‘NO’, which will ultimately make us act like mean parents.

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  1. Naveed June 4, 2016

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