Do you wish to stop arguing with people?

How often do you argue with people?

How often do you find yourself tempted to start an argument? and what happens after those long tiring arguments?

Do people really agree with you in the end, or it gets messy?

What I have learnt the only way to stop any kind of argument is, not to argue at all.

It doesn’t serve any purpose.It doesn’t do any good to anyone.

I myself used to argue a lot until one day, I realized  I was making more enemies than friends, and I was actually destroying some really good relationships due to excessively arguing.

what happens after those long arguments?

Even if you win the argument, you end up losing a dear friend, so wining doesn’t really matter, you lose in the end .

Arguments are draining and stressful , and usually doesn’t end up on a positive note or solution,they bring about a lot of negativity.

In some cases Arguments can also be very healthy and helpful. for instance, if a couple decides to clear their past confusions, and use argument as a mean to conflict resolution.

Also in case of old friends who decide to confront each other and have an argument, justifying their actions in past.

In this way they both get to explain their perspectives and modify their behavior, which results in a better relationship. But, unfortunately arguments usually provoke more conflicts and it becomes a matter of ‘who gets to win the argument’ at the expense of a valuable relationship.

Tips on how to stop arguing with people

Don’t impose your point of view on people.

learn to respect and accept people’s point of view. They are coming from different backgrounds, have different perspectives on life. You don’t necessarily have to agree with them but you must respect their opinon.

Don’t criticize them or try to prove them wrong

Even if you find others arguments irrational, don’t respond to them with a long speech of how irrational you find their arguments and why.

Take the responsibility and put an end to the possible argument

If they accuse you for starting an argument, doesn’t matter, take the responsibility and put an end to it, or it or will start another argument.

Stay quiet

No matter how lame you find someone’s argument or you have more solid points to prove their stance wrong  still stay quiet.

Don’t waste your time and energy

Don’t try to convince people even if you are right, it’s technically wasting your time and energy.

Its not your responsibility to correct people

Even if you are tempted to correct them, don’t.

Connect on mutual points

Try to agree more, and connect with people instead of disagreeing.

Respect people even if you disagree with them

Continue your relationship and keep on respecting people even if you happen to have a difference of opinion. Just because you have a difference of opinion doesn’t mean you hold grudge for someone and stop any interaction with them.

You don’t have a right to show disapproval to people’s point of view

If you like something comment and praise open heatedly, and if you don’t ,stay quiet, you don’t have to express your dislikes, you have no right to.

Try not to hurt people with your blunt opinions

If you are asked for an opinion, try not to hurt people’s feeling, try to make your point in a positive way.

Apologize even if you are not at fault

If people find your views on certain issues disagreeable,  apologize for it, instead of going in details validating your point of view (it doesn’t make them  agree with you, anyway it’s like avoiding any argument they want to start)

Don’t give in to temptation

No matter how much anyone tempts you to argue, as some people love arguing to prove themselves superior, they love wining arguments, don’t give them that satisfaction.

Don’t try to change anyone’s point of view

Don’t waste your valuable time making people change their minds, they might do it with a passage of time, you don’t have to put in extra effort.

Final words

Believe me arguing doesn’t do anyone any good,people will never forgive you for that,they will feel hurt, humiliated by your action,they will  avoid you,bad mouth about you, as nobody in the world considers himself/herself wrong,we all want to hear only good things about ourselves. We all want to feel important, we only want to be praised,we don’t have the courage to accept our faults.

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Hey!! I am Saima Masood. A passionate writer, daydreamer and a blogger, a procrastinator by nature + coffee lover. Food is one thing that makes her immensely happy.

4 COMMENTS

    • Abbas Raza , no its just not u…a lot of poeple around us are having the same prob, its just they don’t consider it a prob:), thanks for taking out time to comment, appreciate it

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